Cervical Cancer
For the Caregiver
Being a caregiver for a loved one with cervical cancer is one of the most rewarding yet challenging roles you will ever take on. The expectations are high, because she will need practical help as well as emotional support. It can be very physically and mentally demanding. Before you know it, you could find that your own health is suffering. So, while you help your loved one in the following ways, pay attention to how you can also take care of yourself.
Learn about the diagnosis. Knowledge is power. Help her access information, workshops and support groups so she can feel more confident during treatment and beyond. You can be empowered, too. Discover the many resources for caregivers of women with cervical cancer.
Perform daily tasks. You will likely drive her to medical appointments, take notes during the appointments, run errands, do laundry and take on other household chores. You don’t have to do everything by yourself. Delegate. Accept offers of help from friends, family and neighbors, and be specific about how they can help. Consider having groceries and prescriptions delivered.
Shop for groceries and make meals. A healthy diet, including staying hydrated, will help her keep up her strength and manage treatment better. You also need to follow a nutritious diet. You’re already preparing meals and healthy snacks for her — simply make enough for both of you.
Manage childcare and carpools if she has kids. Moms tend to want to do everything, so she may have trouble letting go. Encourage her to let you coordinate the kids’ schedules. You can reach out to neighbors and parents of her kids’ friends to ask about sharing carpool responsibilities to school and activities. She may enjoy some alone time while you take a shift.
Just listen. Sometimes she may feel like talking about the cancer; other times, it may be more like yelling. Or, she might just need a shoulder to cry on. Do your best to be there for whatever comforts her. You also need someone, such as a friend (not her — pick a different person!), a therapist or a support group, who will listen, offer encouragement and validate your emotions. Consider joining a support group for caregivers. It helps tremendously to hear how others care for their loved ones and for themselves.
Watch for side effects. Some side effects can be very serious, and you can help watch for new or worsening symptoms so they can be assessed by her care team right away. You can pay special attention to your own health by staying on top of preventive medical visits, exercising, eating right and getting enough sleep. You can’t be an effective caregiver if you don’t take care of yourself.
Don’t overhelp. Try not to take over or be in her space all the time. We all need a breather every now and then. You need time off, too. Ask a trusted friend or family member to spot you while you take part in your own activities or just take some time to recharge. This is called respite care, and it is absolutely essential.
